I am a realist, I know relationships come to an end and it’s often for the best. But no matter how or why it happens, the end of a long relationship is painful and difficult.
Accepting the end of long relationship is a traumatic process that throws up a huge range of confusing and difficult emotions. It can feel daunting and overwhelming. Going through a separation from a loved one is a huge loss and is as traumatic as a bereavement. As the shock of the break-up begins to wear off and the pain sets in, there is no right or wrong way to get through those first few difficult weeks. Recovering from a relationship breakdown whilst going through a divorce, especially one not of your choosing - is immensely difficult and painful.
You don’t have to do this alone.
Accepting the end of long relationship is a traumatic process that throws up a huge range of confusing and difficult emotions. It can feel daunting and overwhelming. Going through a separation from a loved one is a huge loss and is as traumatic as a bereavement. As the shock of the break-up begins to wear off and the pain sets in, there is no right or wrong way to get through those first few difficult weeks. Recovering from a relationship breakdown whilst going through a divorce, especially one not of your choosing - is immensely difficult and painful.
You don’t have to do this alone.
How I can help you?
I am a divorce and break up coach. I provide individual support to help you navigate the emotional roller coaster of divorce and separation with confidence and strength. Divorce coaching is so effective because it is tailor-made to suit your individual needs and supports both the emotional and legal process of your divorce. I will help you identify and work through the difficult emotions, so that you can treat the legal divorce as a job. This should ultimately make the process less stressful, less expensive and essentially less painful for all involved.
Here are the different ways that my services can help you in the early stages of your separation or divorce.:
1. Firstly, I listen. I provide a safe, non-judgmental and confidential environment for you to talk about your situation. Talking to me openly can help clarify your thoughts and feelings about your situation, helping you towards feeling calmer. The emotional support I provide will help you to feel understood and prioritised. By combining my therapy experience with my coaching skills, I can effectively help you through the very stressful time of your break-up. With so many financial, legal and childcare issues to work through and difficult decisions to make, it is important to have the right support and advice.
2. Answering those important questions that you may have about your situation. Family breakdown is an extremely emotional time and big decisions need to be made that impact you and your family. We can go through all of these questions together and ensure that you receive the right information that you need. I have knowledge and personal experience of the legal process and can help you to get clarity on how to work best with your lawyer and other professionals. As a divorce and break up coach, I do not give legal or financial advice, but I will help you to build the best team around you to support you through the process. Obtaining the right information about your options will help clarify things for you, which should assist with important decision-making. I will guide you to make the decisions that are the best for you, and in your own time.
3. Helping you to work out a plan for your next steps. I want to help you look ahead to your future, so that you can think about this event as being an opportunity to move forward to a more fulfilling life. Through the work we do, I can help you to stay focused on what you feel is important and what you want the outcome of your situation to be. This could involve practical tips to help improve your situation, as well as suggestions for managing stress and tools to deal with difficult emotions. We can work on simple action plans to help you take things slowly and carefully. My goal is to give you the clarity, confidence and strength to navigate this confusing process in a dignified way.
I am a divorce and break up coach. I provide individual support to help you navigate the emotional roller coaster of divorce and separation with confidence and strength. Divorce coaching is so effective because it is tailor-made to suit your individual needs and supports both the emotional and legal process of your divorce. I will help you identify and work through the difficult emotions, so that you can treat the legal divorce as a job. This should ultimately make the process less stressful, less expensive and essentially less painful for all involved.
Here are the different ways that my services can help you in the early stages of your separation or divorce.:
1. Firstly, I listen. I provide a safe, non-judgmental and confidential environment for you to talk about your situation. Talking to me openly can help clarify your thoughts and feelings about your situation, helping you towards feeling calmer. The emotional support I provide will help you to feel understood and prioritised. By combining my therapy experience with my coaching skills, I can effectively help you through the very stressful time of your break-up. With so many financial, legal and childcare issues to work through and difficult decisions to make, it is important to have the right support and advice.
2. Answering those important questions that you may have about your situation. Family breakdown is an extremely emotional time and big decisions need to be made that impact you and your family. We can go through all of these questions together and ensure that you receive the right information that you need. I have knowledge and personal experience of the legal process and can help you to get clarity on how to work best with your lawyer and other professionals. As a divorce and break up coach, I do not give legal or financial advice, but I will help you to build the best team around you to support you through the process. Obtaining the right information about your options will help clarify things for you, which should assist with important decision-making. I will guide you to make the decisions that are the best for you, and in your own time.
3. Helping you to work out a plan for your next steps. I want to help you look ahead to your future, so that you can think about this event as being an opportunity to move forward to a more fulfilling life. Through the work we do, I can help you to stay focused on what you feel is important and what you want the outcome of your situation to be. This could involve practical tips to help improve your situation, as well as suggestions for managing stress and tools to deal with difficult emotions. We can work on simple action plans to help you take things slowly and carefully. My goal is to give you the clarity, confidence and strength to navigate this confusing process in a dignified way.
How I work
These are 4 key principles that underlie my work as your break-up and divorce coach
1. You are the Focus
I recognise that each client is unique and I take a highly individual approach. My therapy experience is invaluable for understanding you and to enable you to rediscover what is important in your life.
Coaching is a partnership and works effectively when both coach and client are committed to the process. Together, we come up with an action plan and I help you identify and access your own resources for implementing these steps so that you can positively and proactively move your life forward.
2. Gain Clarity
A break down of a relationship can make you feel frightened and overwhelmed. It can be difficult to think clearly. So much of the fear during a break-up comes from a lack of knowledgeof what a divorce entails and what the future holds. Rather than bury your head in the sand about the things that are worrying you, I help you face up to your fears by getting clarity, obtaining knowledge and working out how you can address all of those worries. I help you identify your options, thus making things more clear and enabling you to make strong informed decisions.
3. Take Back Control
Through working together, I can help you identify and stay focused on what you feel is important and what you want the outcome of your situation to be. We will think together about what you want the next phase of your life to look like and I will help you identify the steps you need to take to get there. This may involve practical tips, suggestions and tools to understand, navigate and manage difficult emotions and situations that lie ahead. Being clear on what you want to achieve will help you feel motivated, confident and more in control of your life.
4. Acceptance and Moving Forward
Making sense of the ending enables you to accept the break-up and to move forward. We learn most about ourselves within intimate relationships, even within unhealthy or difficult ones. I believe that we need to understand and integrate our past so that we can move towards a better future. When constructing the story of how a relationship ended, some people become fixated on the last painful part of the relationship and feel overwhelmed. Many feel that they are a complete failure and blame themselves. This in turn can lead to despair and depression. If this is the case, it’s important to look at the relationship with a different perspective.
This is where my knowledge and experience of relationship dynamics will help you to make sense of your past relationship and your part to play in it. It takes two to make a couple and it takes two to break a couple – I believe that both have their part to play in the break-up. Reflecting and taking responsibility for one’s own role in what went wrong, will help you understand yourself better and move on to a more satisfying life.
These are 4 key principles that underlie my work as your break-up and divorce coach
1. You are the Focus
I recognise that each client is unique and I take a highly individual approach. My therapy experience is invaluable for understanding you and to enable you to rediscover what is important in your life.
Coaching is a partnership and works effectively when both coach and client are committed to the process. Together, we come up with an action plan and I help you identify and access your own resources for implementing these steps so that you can positively and proactively move your life forward.
2. Gain Clarity
A break down of a relationship can make you feel frightened and overwhelmed. It can be difficult to think clearly. So much of the fear during a break-up comes from a lack of knowledgeof what a divorce entails and what the future holds. Rather than bury your head in the sand about the things that are worrying you, I help you face up to your fears by getting clarity, obtaining knowledge and working out how you can address all of those worries. I help you identify your options, thus making things more clear and enabling you to make strong informed decisions.
3. Take Back Control
Through working together, I can help you identify and stay focused on what you feel is important and what you want the outcome of your situation to be. We will think together about what you want the next phase of your life to look like and I will help you identify the steps you need to take to get there. This may involve practical tips, suggestions and tools to understand, navigate and manage difficult emotions and situations that lie ahead. Being clear on what you want to achieve will help you feel motivated, confident and more in control of your life.
4. Acceptance and Moving Forward
Making sense of the ending enables you to accept the break-up and to move forward. We learn most about ourselves within intimate relationships, even within unhealthy or difficult ones. I believe that we need to understand and integrate our past so that we can move towards a better future. When constructing the story of how a relationship ended, some people become fixated on the last painful part of the relationship and feel overwhelmed. Many feel that they are a complete failure and blame themselves. This in turn can lead to despair and depression. If this is the case, it’s important to look at the relationship with a different perspective.
This is where my knowledge and experience of relationship dynamics will help you to make sense of your past relationship and your part to play in it. It takes two to make a couple and it takes two to break a couple – I believe that both have their part to play in the break-up. Reflecting and taking responsibility for one’s own role in what went wrong, will help you understand yourself better and move on to a more satisfying life.
A coaching session with me typically lasts 2 hours for the first session and 90 minutes for subsequent sessions.
Please contact me to arrange a free 20-30 minute phone conversation so that we can chat about your situation and discuss how I can support you through it.
julie@juliemurray.co.uk
Please contact me to arrange a free 20-30 minute phone conversation so that we can chat about your situation and discuss how I can support you through it.
julie@juliemurray.co.uk